polyamorouspixie:

People on my Facebook keep sharing that “when you fall in love with someone, you aren’t interested in anyone else. If you are, you aren’t in love” post. Gross. 

Humans don’t have some magical boundary that stops them from loving more than one person. We’re not machines, hard coded with a limit. We have an ability to love partners, to love family, to love friends, to love pets, to love toys and machines. I bet some people have cried when their Roomba wore out. We’re crazy about love, we love people we’ve never even met, spend our free time absorbing music and stories about love. 

Romantic love is my favourite kind of love, sure, and it seems to involve the most adrenaline. But it isn’t magic. There’s no reason why you can’t have more than one. It doesn’t make someone less special when you love another; if anything it’s more special. 

Because you’re saying this: I wouldn’t be alone, a thing most humans fear the most, even if I wasn’t with you. I don’t need to be with you. But I still want to be with you. And that’s much more romantic to me.

I know people do that “but you’re splitting your time!!!!!” business. Yes. You are. You also have to divide up your limited time between work, family, pets, friends, hobbies, sleep, responsibilities, chores… and having a job doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner.